Supporting Your Matriculant Through Prelims and Finals

For every matric learner, prelims and finals can feel like the weight of the world has landed on their shoulders. It’s more than just exams; it’s a season of pressure, expectation, and the fear of the unknown. As parents, it’s natural to want to encourage, push, and remind. But sometimes, the most powerful support you can offer is patience, understanding, and calm presence.

1. Understand That Times Have Changed

One of the biggest challenges I see is when parents compare their own matric journey to their child’s. The curriculum, exam structures, and even the world learners are stepping into today are not the same as a generation ago. What may have felt manageable back then feels entirely different now. Comparing experiences can unintentionally make learners feel invalidated or misunderstood.

Instead, meet them where they are. Their reality is unique, and they need you to see them, not a reflection of your past.

2. Create a Calm Home Environment

Small changes make a big difference. A quieter space, meals that fuel concentration, and gentle encouragement all contribute to lowering stress levels. Learners often carry enough pressure from school and their own expectations. Knowing that home is a safe, calm, and supportive space allows them to recharge.

3. Encourage Breaks and Balance

Many learners push themselves to the point of burnout, believing that “more hours = better results.” In truth, productivity comes from balance. Encourage healthy breaks like a short walk, a stretch, or a conversation to clear the mind before diving back into studies.

4. Be Available, Not Overbearing

Sometimes your matriculant may want to talk, vent, or simply sit in silence with you. Other times, they may need space. The key is to be available without hovering. Ask gentle check-in questions like:

• “How are you feeling about your prep today?”

• “Is there a way I can support you right now?”

This keeps communication open without adding pressure.

5. Celebrate Effort, Not Just Results

During prelims and finals, it’s easy to only focus on marks. But every late-night revision session, every practice paper, and every small step forward deserves recognition. A simple “I’m proud of how hard you’re working” can boost confidence more than you may realise.

Final Thoughts

Your child doesn’t need a perfect coach at home. They need a parent who sees them, supports them, and loves them unconditionally through this stressful time. Patience, compassion, and understanding go a long way in helping them not only survive exams but also grow through the process with resilience and confidence.

-Ghaaziyah Willemse, Founder, Top Tier Tuition